After having a talk with some
friends, I went home and thought about the concept "friends with benefits." For those who don't know what the concept is, it is
when two friends have sex with no strings attached. Noramlly, when the question is presented
to us, our immediate response is "no, I’m not that kinda girl." On the contrary, I
Believe we are all that “kinda girl,” whether we would like to admit it or not.
I think we should stop thinking about whether we should or we shouldn't, but
instead on HOW we should go about it. Like everything in life there must be
rules and regulations.
1. You both
must be single, let's have morals please.
2. Make sure
that your friend is not your "best friend," it will change the
relationship eventually. Don't do it.
3. Both you
and your "friend" should like each other the same amount. For
example, you must be sure that he likes you just as much as you like him. It
has to be the perfect amount, you guys cannot have legitimate feelings for each
other or the situation will start to get complicated.
4. If you guys
already hung out continue to do so normally, do not let anything change.
5. Only have
sex, not intimacy. Treat it has a sport, almost as if you were working out with a
friend.
6. Make sure
you are absolutely comfortable with the person and do things that you would not
usually do with someone that you're hooking up with. For example, try new
positions and think it's like practice for when the real thing comes along.
7. Last but
not least do not stop talking to other guys, and make sure he does not stop
talking to other girls. We don't want any stage 5 clingers.
Ladies
go out there and find the one that's going to keep you warm this cuffing
season. Do not feel guilty, just enjoy.
